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The term ‘autopilot’ has been used for decades within the aircraft
industry, enabling pilots to reduce their cognitive load by allowing an
aircraft to practically fly itself during “cruising” portions of the
trip. The same is now happening as cars with autopilot are rapidly
turning into more autonomous, self-driving vehicles, allowing drivers to
let the cars drive themselves on certain portions of the trip, like
freeways.
Tesla most famously branded its self-driving features as “Autopilot”,
but many other automakers are now including similar self-driving and
autonomous vehicle features as part of their driving assistance option
packages.
This article provides a breakdown of cars with autopilot and who
offers what, but first, we’ll go through a bit of background and
explanation of terms.
First, let’s define exactly what constitutes ‘autopilot’-like
features. Autonomous systems in cars and self-driving vehicles can take
many different forms, from basic driver assistance features, like cruise
control, to semi-autonomous, all the way to full self-driving
capabilities. The industry even has a set of levels to help classify
this automation.
Level 0 | No automation |
Level 1 | Semi-automated systems, like cruise control. |
Level 2 | Semi-automated systems, like steering, speed and braking. |
Level 3 | Primary driving functions are automated under some conditions. |
Level 4 | Primary driving functions are automated under most conditions. |
Level 5 | Primary driving functions are automated under all conditions. |
Learn more about this by reading our article on SAE self-driving levels for cars and autonomous vehicles.
Autopilot is a generic term used in multiple industries, particularly
aircraft, and generally means that something can guide itself without
human intervention. In relation to cars in 2022, most mainstream
carmakers are focused on, Level 2 autonomy. This level allows the vehicle to take over most steering, acceleration and
braking functions, but still requires that the driver remain fully
attentive to the driving situation and be able to intervene at any
moment. It is not driverless, fully autonomous driving, like robotaxis
from Waymo or Cruise (that are now testing in California).
That means, today, autopilot really means ‘assisted driving’ and not
‘self-driving’ since the driver still has to be alert and attentive at
all times. It won’t be until Level 4 or Level 5 fully autonomous cars
hit the roads that the true promise of full self-driving will be a
reality. Currently, that’s not expected to happen until later in 2022
(although the team at Tesla is pushing hard to do so as soon as
possible, as announced at Tesla Autonomy Day, since all new cars sold with Hardware 3 are much more powerful).
Learn more about autonomous Full Self-Driving capabilities that Tesla currently includes today.
Core AutoPilot Features
At minimum, we define autopilot (Level 2) to include the following
features for use on freeways and highways with “controlled access”
(i.e., they have on-ramps and off-ramps and no-cross traffic
intersections):
Other autopilot features that are useful, but not critical for the ‘autopilot’ designation, are:
Presently only Tesla is able to achieve the additional three
mentioned above with their Full Self-Driving and Enhanced Autopilot
options on ‘Hardware 2’ vehicles.
Isn’t This Just Automated Cruise Control with Lane Centering?
If you step back and look at the core of what’s being provided, we’re
really talking about automated cruise control with the ability to steer
itself (keep the vehicle centered in the lane). However, the second
part (steering) is critical and one of the most difficult tasks, which
we’ll explain below.
Lane Keeping Assist vs Automated Lane Centering (steering)
One of the most confusing aspects of choosing a good autopilot system
is understanding the difference between what’s often called “Lane
Keeping Assist” (LKA) and automated steering where the system is
actually keeping the car centered at all times with no driver input
(other than hands on the wheel, if the system requires it).
Almost all major car companies have some sort of LKA functionality,
however, that usually means helping to move the vehicle back to the
center of the lane if it drifts. Some systems are robust enough where
you could keep your hands off the wheel for a short period of time so it
feels like automated steering to a certain degree.
In reality, the future systems will be ones that can accurately
identify the road and combine that with map data to ensure the car can
steer itself on the road as good or better than a human driver. So far,
only Tesla and GM’s Super Cruise are able to do that, but only in
certain conditions (e.g. the road only has mild curves).
The bottom line is, if you see “Lane Keeping Assist”, be sure to dig
into that feature and test drive it on the freeway to understand whether
it automatically keeps the system centered in the lane automatically,
and how well it does it. The last thing you want is a false sense of
security and have the car drift into another lane or off the road.
What About Basic Safety Features?
Most all cars that have autopilot-like features, also have fairly
common automated safety systems included, called Advanced Driver
Assistance Systems (ADAS) within the industry. These core safety
features include:
All these features are “must-have” today and you should double-check
to ensure they are included with your vehicle and package options.
Historically, most auto-manufacturers have relied on Original
Equipment Manufacturers (OEMs), like Mobileye, Delphi and Bosch, etc. to
provide autopilot parts and technologies for their cars, including
things like navigation systems. This allows the auto manufacturers to
concentrate on developing and marketing the core cars themselves while
other companies focus on specialized parts and technology.
Mobileye, which was purchased by Intel, is arguably the leading OEM
in providing autopilot technology, via their EyeQ line of visual
perception chips, to auto manufacturers. They famously provided
Autopilot technology for the first-generation Tesla Model S vehicles
that came with Enhanced Autopilot. Later, Tesla began to develop its own
technology as Elon Musk wanted to push autonomous driving technology
faster. Mobileye previously focused on perception technology (i.e.
identifying objects) with its EyeQ chips and it was up to the
manufacturers to integrate driving control hardware and software but now
Mobileye is also beginning to offer “full-stack” autopilot solutions.
Today Mobileye is providing autopilot-like technology to manufacturers
such as Audi, BMW and Nissan via their EyeQ 4 and EyeQ 5 chipsets.
NVIDIA is close behind Mobileye in developing autopilot features. In fact, their latest ADAS system is termed “Autopilot” (see this article).
NVIDIA comes from a gaming / AI chipset development background and
rightfully believes that more powerful AI-like system will be required
in cars to achieve reliable full-self driving. They are supplying
solutions to Volvo and Mercedes for their future vehicles.
Other startups and companies, like Cruise (GM), Aurora, Argo and Zoox
(now Amazon) are also gaining momentum, but are primarily focused on
robo-taxis and are in testing phases rather than large-scale rollouts.
That said, many car manufacturers are developing their own technology
as they feel it’s critical as a future differentiator. Tesla is most
famous in this regard, having created a sophisticated Autopilot system
using a neural network based on cameras. Toyota, Honda and Subaru have
also created their own systems.
Why does it matter? Generally speaking, dedicated OEMs like Mobileye
can innovate faster than auto manufacturers. However, some auto
manufacturers like Tesla are innovating so quickly
that they push over-the-air software updates to their cars, just like
your smartphone. Most traditional auto manufacturers don’t update
software, requiring you to purchase a new model year instead.
Regardless, all manufacturers are beholden to regulatory approval
before bringing new autonomous driving technology to the market.
For those automotive enthusiasts and tech-savvy tinkerers who want
cutting-edge autopilot features, there is another solution from comma.ai
using the open-source openpilot software. This taps into newer-model
vehicles with autopilot, like the ones below, but supercharges them with
advanced machine learning and neural network capabilities.
Learn more about the Comma.ai openpilot solution and even check out the openpilot vs Tesla Autopilot to see how they compare.
Most auto manufacturers claim to have some sort of self-driving
capability, whether it’s basic Adaptive Cruise Control or Lane Keeping
Assist, or a combination of both. However, simply having those features
doesn’t mean they work well.
These are generally the most important criteria for autopilot functionality:
While we have not personally tested each system, the criteria above
are what we watch out for in reviews and videos to understand how well
each autopilot system performs.
While there are many ‘autopilot’-like systems available from car
manufacturers today, they are generally a combination of Adaptive Cruise
Control (ACC) and Lane Keeping Assist (LKA). As mentioned previously
LKA by itself only nudges a car back to the center of the lane, but does
not keep it centered.
The cars below are ones that are generally considered the top cars
with autopilot and do a good job automatically keeping a car centered in
the lane.
Top Cars with AutoPilot features for 2021 and 2022:
We go into more detail on each one below, so read on.
Overview:
Tesla has long been a leader in terms of
autopilot functionality in cars, even calling their system ‘Autopilot’.
Not only is their system one of the most sophisticated and accurate on
the road, but it’s also continually updated over-the-air
(just like your smartphone), so the vehicles just keep getting better
and better. The biggest downside is that driver monitoring only uses
steering wheel inputs to determine whether the driver is paying
attention vs facial monitoring, for example.
What It’s Called:
Autopilot and Full-Self Driving options. For more information, read our detailed review on Tesla Autopilot and Full Self-Driving options.
Technology Used:
Tesla uses eight cameras around the
vehicle for a full 360 view, plus a front-facing radar and long-range
ultrasonic sensors. It uses a powerful machine learning computer (called
the Full Self-Driving Computer, aka Hardware 3) which began rolling out in early 2019.
Supported Models:
All current Tesla vehicles (the Tesla
Model S, Model X and Model 3) all support Autopilot and Full
Self-Driving features as an option, AP2 and above. Older Tesla models
(pre-2016) with AP1 have an older version of Autopilot that doesn’t have
all the current features.
Core Features:
Verdict:
The best of the best in terms of functionality, especially with the Full Self-Driving package that includes the ability to work on city streets and respond to traffic controls and has the Navigate-on-Autopilot
feature, that automatically routes the vehicle on closed-access freeway
systems (on-ramp to off-ramp). Tesla continually updates Autopilot
with powerful features rolling out
all the time. However it’s so powerful it can be used almost anywhere,
meaning it’s up to the driver to pay attention and use it properly as
driver monitoring is only via the steering wheel.
Overview:
General Motors is arguably one of the top innovators in self-driving technology, having
launched its highly-regarded Super Cruise technology on the Cadillac
CT6 and with its work on Cruise, a subdivision of GM, working on
creating fully-self driving fleet vehicles (like taxis). The new Chevy
Bolt also has a more limited version of Super Cruise.
What It’s Called:
Super Cruise
Technology Used:
Super Cruise packages a variety of
technology from suppliers including Intel’s Mobileye platform, Trimble
RTX for positioning, forward-facing cameras, side cameras, radar plus an
internal camera from FOVIO for eye tracking.
Supported Models:
Cadillac CT6, Cadillac Escalade, Chevy Bolt (limited version)
Core Features:
Verdict:
The Super Cruise system is at or right behind
Tesla Autopilot in our opinion. While Tesla Autopilot is more powerful
and sophisticated, the Super Cruise system is better suited to everyday
drivers since it restricts use to freeways it has mapped in the US (most
major ones) and strictly monitors driver attentiveness using
eye-tracking, therefore limiting mistakes that can be made by drivers,
particularly older drivers (Cadillac’s primary demographic). The driver
monitoring system is one of the reasons why Consumer Reports gives it
the highest rating, even about Tesla’s Autopilot system.
Note: A future version, launching in 2023, called “Ultra Cruise”
announced in October 2021, will be able to drive on a wider variety of
streets and will be based on the Qualcomm “Snapdragon Ride” platform.
Overview:
The Volkswagen Group is the parent company of
several brands, including VW, Audi, and Porsche. Audi has recently made
aggressive moves into self-driving, including touting a Level 3 system
in Europe which is unfortunately not yet in the US due to regulatory
concerns. So, for now autopilot functions in Audi are similar to others.
What It’s Called:
Active Lane Assist with Stop & Go (for higher speeds) and Traffic Jam Assist
(for lower speeds). The future, Level 3, version that will be
hands-off in speeds under 37 MPH, will be called “Traffic Jam Pilot”.
It’s currently available in some other countries, but not yet in the US.
There’s also a system called “Adaptive Drive Assist” for foreign
markets.
Technology Used:
Audi has recently made aggressive moves
into self-driving, including the first Lidar unit in a consumer vehicle,
the A8 (and now the A6 and Q8), in addition to its new zFAS controller
that integrates sensor inputs into a single computing unit. They also
work with Mobileye (EyeQ 4 chips) for perception inputs.
Supported Models:
Audi A8, A6 and Q8
Core Features:
Overview:
BMW has long had adaptive cruise control with
rudimentary lane centering, but starting with certain 2019 models, they
rolled out new technology. The system is not updated over the air and
must be taken into the dealer for updates.
What It’s Called:
Driving Assistant Pro with Extended Traffic Jam Assistant
Technology Used:
BMW utilizes the Mobileye EyeQ platform
in the Driving Assistant package with control software from ZF, and on
the newest models, the EyeQ 4 chip with a tri-focal camera set looking
forward. It also has forward and rear radar sensors. With some options,
it also includes an eye monitoring camera.
Supported Models:
Available on select models, including BMW X5 7 and 3 series.
Core Features:
Verdict:
The BMW system is loaded with features but its
lane centering (crucial for autopilot), leaves something to be desired
and isn’t nearly as robust as Tesla’s during our tests. That said, at
low speeds (under 40mph) in freeway traffic, the hands-free option
(using eye-monitoring) is a nice option.
Overview:
Ford offers basic driver assistance with many
of its current vehicles, like the Ford Explorer, called Co-Pilot 360,
which includes basic stop-and-go Adaptive Cruise Control (ACC) with
basic Automatic Lane Centering (ALC) and Lane Keeping Assist (LKA).
However, where things really get interesting will be with the upcoming
Ford Co-Pilot 360 2.0, now called “BlueCruise” coming in 2022 on the Mach-E and the Ford F-150. This will include more advanced, Tesla-like Autopilot capabilities.
What It’s Called:
Co-Pilot 360 – today’s basic system with ACC, LC and LKA functions.
Co-Pilot 360 Plus – Lincoln’s version upgraded slightly.
Co-Pilot 360 2.0 (BlueCruise) – rolling out in 2022 with optional Active Driver Assist that includes more sophisticated Autopilot-like features and requires a subscription.
Technology Used:
Ford has partnered with Mobileye and utilizes the Mobileye EyeQ technology components.
Supported Models:
2020 vehicles like the Ford Explorer
and Lincoln Aviator that include the Co-Pilot 360 options have today’s
basic driver assistance. The newer Co-Pilot 360 2.0 with Active Driver
Assist is making its way into the Mach-E and Ford F-150 and will have more robust Tesla Autopilot-like features.
Core Features:
Verdict:
Overall the Ford / Lincoln Co-Pilot 360 system
as it stands today is a very capable Autopilot system. While the Lane
Centering won’t handle sharp turns, it does a great job on primarily
straight roads with gentle curves. This system will definitely help
with long commutes and freeway driving. The next version, Co-Pilot 360
2.0 / “BlueCruise”, coming with the Mach-E and Ford F-150 should be one to watch.
Overview:
The Hyundai Motor Group and Kia Motors are
jointly owned entities that produce distinct but similar vehicles using
common platforms and parts. In 2019 Hyundai invested in self-driving
startup Aurora, but that technology has not made it to public release
yet. Currently, Kia and Hyundai offer Level 2 technology in some of
their vehicles that is best-in-class outside of advanced systems like
Tesla and GM Supercruise.
What It’s Called:
Lane Following Assist (LFA) and Smart Cruise Control w/ Stop and Go (SCC)
Highway Drive Assist (HDA) combines LFA and SCC, plus automatically adjust to speed limits
Technology Used:
Currently, Hyundai / Kia used an
in-house technology called HDA2 (Highway Driving Assist), but may in the
future leverage technology from the Aurora investment. They also have
worked with Intel / Mobileye in the past as well and likely use their
EyeQ sensors.
Supported Models:
Hyundai Palisade, Sonata, Kia Telluride, plus others.
Core Features:
Verdict:
The Hyundai and Kia Level 2 driving-assist
implementations are incredibly impressive and have gotten very positive
reviews so far, with many people comparing it favorably to Tesla’s
Autopilot, at least as far as basic adaptive cruise control and lane
centering is concerned (although it can not handle sharp turns). For
someone looking for a system to take the edge of the daily commute, it’s
worth considering.
Overview:
Volvo
has always been a leader in safety technology and was one of the first
companies to bring advanced safety systems and lane centering to its
full lineup of vehicles. They recently have had some self-driving
setbacks as they’ve decided to switch platforms, delaying more
sophisticated autopilot-like features.
What It’s Called:
Pilot Assist (the latest version is technically Pilot Assist II)
Future 2022/2023 version will be called “Ride Assist” (or “Highway Assist”)
Technology Used:
Volvo currently leverages the Mobileye
EyeQ 3 platform and has a front-facing camera and radar (Delphi’s RaCAM –
Radar and Camera Sensor Fusion System, that sits on the windshield).
In the future with “Ride Assist” in 2022 or 2023, they plan to switch
from Mobileye to the NVIDIA Orin chipset and incorporate front-facing Luminar LiDAR as well with the help of Zenseact on the software side.
Supported Models:
All Volvo models including XC90 / XC60 / XC40 and sedans.
Core Features:
Verdict:
Volvo’s Pilot Assist II is only fair when it
comes to autopilot quality. It’s helpful in straight stop-and-go
traffic, but we wouldn’t trust the driving to Pilot Assist on roads with
curves as it has challenges staying in the lanes.
Overview:
Mercedes actually helped pioneer adaptive
cruise control in the late 1990s with its high-end S-class sedan. As a
luxury car provider, Mercedes has continually ensured that its vehicles
have the latest technology available, but has been a bit behind lately
in advancing autopilot features.
What It’s Called:
Driver Assistance Package PLUS
package that includes options like Active Distance Assist DISTRONIC,
Active Steering Assist, Active Lane Keeping Assist and Active Lane
Change Assist.
Technology Used:
Mercedes works with Bosch and NVIDIA to power its systems via a combination of camera and radar inputs.
Supported Models:
E-Class and S-Class sedans
Core Features:
Overview:
Nissan and Infiniti have come a long way in
bringing practical safety and self-driving technology to the masses. Its
Nissan ProPilot is available on lower-end models such as the Nissan
Rogue.
What It’s Called:
ProPilot Assist
Technology Used:
Nissan / Infiniti use the Mobileye EyeQ platform, leveraging forward camera and radar inputs.
Supported Models:
Nissan Rogue and Nissan LEAF
Infiniti QX50
Core Features:
Verdict:
Nissan and Infiniti’s ProPilot system does an
admiral job bringing basic autopilot features to the masses. Automated
lane centering is just fair. Nissan announced ProPILOT 2.0 for Japan,
which is much more advanced, but is unclear when it will come to the US
at this point.
Toyota has the Toyota Safety Sense (TSS) system, the
latest version being TSS 2.0. Lexus calls its system the Lexus Safety
System (LSS) and the automation Lexus CODRIVE. TSS 2.0 initially became
available in the 2020 RAV4 and 2020 Corolla and has since rolled out to
more vehicles. Both Lexus and Toyota use a feature called “Lane
Tracing Assist” which allows the vehicle to center itself in a lane, but
is not as robust as Tesla, Cadillac or BMW.
Honda has the Honda Sensing Suite that includes ACC
and Lane Keeping Assist System (LKAS). With Acura it’s called AcuraWatch
and also comes with LKAS. As with the Toyota / Lexus system, it allows
the vehicle to center itself in the lane but isn’t particularly
sophisticated and requires constant vigilance.
Subaru has offered their Eyesight technology for quite some time that
provides ACC and basic LKA. It uses two cameras above the windshield
for stereoscopic vision. While this does a decent job, it isn’t as
robust as other systems that use a combination of cameras and radar.
While not an auto manufacturer, Comma.ai has released a DIY autopilot kit based on the openpilot,
called Comma Two. It only works on certain, modern cars but is an
interesting alternative for those tech-savvy car enthusiasts who want to
hack their cars. Additionally, it won high praise from Consumer Reports
in terms of overall capabilities and functions.
Autopilot-like functions are becoming more and more mainstream as
technology improves. By late 2022, most car manufacturers will be
offering some sort of more advanced self-driving capabilities.
However, for now, if you want the most powerful AutoPilot-like functionality, we’d opt for a Tesla or GM vehicle with Super Cruise. That said, Ford has a great system with BlueCruise, Hyundai / Kia has a solid offering on their latest vehicles, Audi is coming on strong and BMW, Nissan/Infiniti,
and others will continue to expand their Mobileye offerings over the
next few years. All other systems are still fairly immature and require
heavy attentiveness, but will be improving quickly in 2022.
What’s Important to Know When
When evaluating autopilot-like self driving systems, the main thing
to look out for is Adaptive Cruise Control (ACC) and whether it handles
starting and stopping at all speeds and on what kinds of roads. Then
learn how well the vehicle can identify roads and stay in the center of
the lane, called Lane Centering. Most manufacturers tout “Lane Keeping
Assist” (LKA) as a way to help automate steering, but that’s different
from Lane Centering and often a far cry from something like Tesla’s
Autopilot system or Cadillac’s Super Cruise that are able to stay
steadily centered in the lanes while driving.
If you’re not sure, check out videos on YouTube – enthusiasts and
professionals often test out the systems to provide their opinions and
real-world examples.
Also, ask the dealer how the system can be updated since technology
and software changes so quickly. In Tesla’s case, the Autopilot system
is continually updated over-the-air with software updates. Most other
auto manufacturers require the updates to occur at the dealer during
regular service updates.
Either way, the good news is that more and more cars will have
autopilot features and help cars become much safer in the years to come.
Jhaanas-Arahant
“And furthermore, with the abandoning of pleasure and stress — as with the earlier disappearance of elation and distress — he enters and remains in the fourth jhana: purity of equanimity and mindfulness, neither-pleasure-nor-pain. He sits, permeating the body with a pure, bright awareness, so that there is nothing of his entire body unpervaded by pure, bright awareness.
“Just as if a man were sitting wrapped from head to foot with a white cloth so that there would be no part of his body to which the white cloth did not extend; even so, the monk sits, permeating his body with a pure, bright awareness. There is nothing of his entire body unpervaded by pure, bright awareness.”
What is the cause of anger
and how can one manage anger
so as not to harm others and oneself?
“Knowing that the other person is angry,
one who remains mindful and calm
acts for his own best interest
and for the other’s interest, too.
Samyutta Nikaya I, 162
Question - What is the cause of anger? What can we do to ensure that we manage our anger so that we do not hurt ourselves or others whilst working towards the total elimination of anger?
Answer - The cause of anger is craving or grasping and our belief in a self. On the surface this may not be very apparent. Most Buddhists are aware that intense craving leads to attachment and greed. However, intense craving also leads to ill-will, anger and hatred.
Just as strong attachment and greed arises because we seek our own happiness, ill-will and anger arise because we seek our own happiness. Just as we crave to hold on to happy sensations that form strong bonds which lead to greed, we crave to set aside unhappy situations or unpleasant sensations. And when we cannot set them aside or avoid them, we feel ill-will, anger and hatred. We also feel ill-will and anger when our happiness is taken away or thwarted. The stronger the craving, the greater will be the suffering resulting from ill-will and anger.
Anger is a normal emotion that all human beings feel, like sorrow and happiness. The emotion of anger is felt from the time one is born. How many of you have seen a little baby turn red and cry with his little face twisted with anger? How many have witnessed a two-year-old throw a temper tantrum? They are too young to have learned this behaviour from others. And yet it is obvious that they are experiencing intense anger. It is also obvious that they have not learned to manage their anger. Because of their young age they are often excused the temper tantrum.
Unfortunately, many adults too have never learned to manage their anger. And so, just like the two-year-old, when they are angry they throw a tantrum.
Maybe not in quite the same way as the two-year-old, but in a manner that is not acceptable for an adult - in a manner that is harmful to self and to others.
Reminding us that anger harms us more than it does those on whom anger is directed the Buddha advises against anger as follows:
“The person possessed of anger; discoloured,
Does not have sound sleep.
Even when experiencing the beneficial
He mistakes it as mischief.
Then he harms another
By thought, speech and deed
As result, he will suffer.
Loss of property (fines or punishment).
Crazed by wrath he behaves thus
That invites ill-repute.
His relatives, friends and acquaintance
Shun him, for his temper - hot.
Anger fathers misfortune
Anger maddens one’s mind
It is a danger that rises from within
But man realizes it not.
The angered knows not what is right
Nor does he see what really is
Surrounded by darkness he dwells
Who now does anger defeat?
Captivated and maddened by anger
He does what is unwholesome with ease
But in time when anger is spent
Regrets he, as one burnt by flames.”
Anguttara Nikaya
As the cause of anger is craving, one often finds that intense anger is felt towards those we love the most. As such it is most important that we learn how to manage our anger so as not to hurt the people we love. One should not assume that those we love will accept and excuse our inappropriate behaviour. Even if they do not tell us how they feel, one can be sure that over time they will not love or respect us for such behaviour.
What we are going to learn today are some techniques to help us manage this anger, and over time, some techniques which will help us to reduce and possibly eliminate anger. We will illustrate these concepts with two stories that occurred at the time of the Buddha.
The first story is an incident that occurred with Visakha, the Buddha’s chief female benefactor. One day she had come to the Buddha for solace as she was angered at some unfair taxes that had been levied on a gift she had mailed. Visakha had mailed a parcel to some relatives and the border guards had charged an unreasonably high levy on the goods. Visakha had complained to the king, but due to pressures of state affairs, he had ignored her complaint. Annoyed and angry, Visakha visited the Buddha for solace. The Buddha calmed her mind by saying:
“Painful is all subjection.
Blissful is complete control.
People are troubled by common concerns,
Hard to escape are the bonds (of craving).”
These words of wisdom from the Buddha helped Visakha put this minor irritation in perspective. The Buddha’s advice is as valid today as it was 2500 years ago. So strong are the bonds of craving and attachment that often we are angered and affected by small issues, many of which are outside our control and trivial when compared to other issues of greater consequence that afflict mankind.
Visakha, as she was only a Sotapanna, felt anger. She managed her anger by not lashing out and hurting anyone. She then went to the Buddha for support. Listening to the Buddha she realized very quickly that this was something outside her control and something that was not of great consequence. This helped to calm her mind.
The second story is about Sariputta, the Buddha’s chief male disciple. A group of men were praising the noble qualities of the elder when a young Brahmin challenged them saying the reason Sariputta had never shown anger was because he had never been provoked. To prove that Sariputta, like others, would resort to anger, he walked up behind the elder and dealt him a resounding blow. Sariputta said “what was that?” and then, without even turning around to find who had hit him, continued walking. The Brahmin was overcome with guilt and shame at his conduct. Falling on his knees he begged pardon and told Sariputta how he had hit him to provoke anger. Sariputta then forgave the Brahmin. The Brahmin, not satisfied with a verbal pardon, asked Sariputta to come to his home for the noonday meal to show that he bore no malice towards him. Sariputta accepted the invitation.
After the meal, as Sariputta was leaving, he saw that a mob of angry supporters had gathered with sticks and stones to punish the Brahmin. They had witnessed the Brahmin’s treatment of the elder whom they loved and respected. Sariputta asked them what the commotion was about. When informed he asked, ‘Whom did the Brahmin strike, you or me?” On being told that it was the Elder whom the Brahmin had struck, he dispersed the angry crowd by saying, “I have pardoned him. What cause is there for anger when I, whom he struck, feels none.”
Sariputta, being an Arahanth, had eradicated all craving and as such felt no anger. The only way we cannot feel anger is by destroying craving. As such it is only an Arahanth who will be completely free of anger. Since none of us are Arahanths we should not put ourselves down or feel guilty when we feel anger. We should, however, ensure that we manage it so that we do not hurt others.
And so we have our long-term goal and our short-term goal. The long-term goal of eliminating anger and the short-term goal of managing anger. Our long-term goal will be reached only through the practice of morality - infinite compassion to all living beings and meditation. Meditation on loving kindness, awareness of breathing (Anapansati) and insight (Vipassana). Over time, all of these will help reduce and finally eliminate anger. As we are aware of the purpose of meditation in relation to the Buddhist goal of Nibbana, we will concentrate on the short-term goal of anger management whilst keeping in mind the importance of eradicating the craving which leads to anger, which is the Buddhist goal.
It must be stressed, however, that meditation also helps in the short- term goal of anger management, as meditation teaches you:
compassion and loving kindness,
to be more aware of your feeling,
to reflect before you speak or act.
The Buddha encourages anger management as follows:
“He abused me, he ill-treated me
He defeated me, he robbed me.
Releasing such thoughts
Banishes hatred for all times.”
Dhammapada 4
“Repay not the angry with anger
And you will win the battle hard to win.
He who acknowledges the other’s anger
While maintaining peace mindfully,
Has worked for the well-being of both
Himself and the other.”
Samyutta Nikaya
“Everybody loves himself
Life is dear to all
Feeling for others as for yourself
One should refrain from harming others.”
Udana
“By not retaliating in anger
At one who gets angry
One wins the battle
That is hard to win.”
Samyutta Nikaya
As meditation helps anger management, we will relate back to meditation periodically throughout this lesson.
When we are in a situation which causes us unhappiness or distress we go through many different emotions. Especially if the incident is one that is outside our control and of significant importance. According to Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, when faced with grave personal loss we go through five stages - denial, anger, depression, bargaining and finally acceptance.
Denial because at first you don’t want to believe that this is true,
Anger because you feel hurt that this should happen to you,
Depression when you feel that nothing can be done about it,
Bargaining when you start to look for alternatives or opportunities to minimise or overcome the hurt and, finally,
Acceptance when you start to heal.
At times one may go through these very quickly. At times it may take months. At times one may go to acceptance and then relapse back to denial. These emotions are often felt when there is major personal loss. It could be an unexpected death, a job loss or a sudden diagnosis of a terminal illness. Academics say that it is normal for everybody to go through these stages. These feelings are not just unique to you. However, the anger felt at such times needs to be managed because if one cannot get past this stage in a reasonable time it could lead to hatred, long-term depression and emotional problems. If we can understand that everybody goes through these stages and that this situation is outside our control, we may, on our own, be able to manage it with time through acceptance and support from good friends. Some, however, may need professional help.
The majority of us, however, get angry because of day-to-day events and day-to-day stresses. What can we do to manage anger in these situations that occur daily? Anger manifests in two ways. Sometimes anger arises spontaneously, flares up, and then is spent. Sometimes anger flares up, then one holds the anger for days, weeks and maybe even for months. This is very dangerous as anger that is not managed can build to hatred. Both manifestations, which sometimes overlap, cause suffering to self and others. How do we manage this anger that we all feel so no one gets hurt? How do we ensure that anger does not escalate to hatred?
First we try to identify where anger starts, and secondly we identify where we hold anger. This may not be easy to do and at times you may need help from a loved one. What is your first sign of anger? Is it the clenching of your palms, the grinding of your teeth or is it your flushed face? Secondly, where do you hold the anger? Whilst there are some who blow over with anger, some retain it for days. Do you retain anger in the head with migraine headaches and thoughts that go on and on, in the chest with this consuming, burning heat, or in the stomach where it manifests as ulcers?
We begin by observing how we first express anger. Is it by yelling out hurtful words, throwing things, hitting, crying or running away? Or do we suppress our anger and hold on to it? Examine yourself and try to observe and know yourself.
In other words, with mindfulness we try to be aware of all our feelings and sensations at times of anger. Once you have identified the first external symptom of anger and consciously try to feel these sensations you will be able to identify when anger arises. Over time you will know and recognize the first signs of anger and suppressed anger. Mindfulness and insight meditation will help you very quickly to identify the first signs of anger. Being able to identify the first signs of anger, you can now start strategies to cope with or manage anger.
Anger that is held is more damaging in the long run as it can build to hatred. Unchecked, it can lead to unwholesome thoughts, speech and action, with grave consequences. As such, we will begin with some strategies for anger that has been held onto. The following have helped others:
Calm discussion with person (sometimes this may be through letters)
Exercise
Self care (do something special for yourself)
Deep breathing
Reading a book
Listening to soft music
Talking to a friend (support)
Reading or listening to the Dhamma
Daily meditation on compassion, mindfulness and insight
Add to this list by reflecting on what works for you. Incidently, these strategies also help to reduce spontaneous anger by reducing stress and promoting general well-being so that trivial things don’t result in anger.
Some strategies for dealing with spontaneous anger are:
Taking time out (walk out of the situation)
Practising deep listening
Reflecting before you speak
Developing compassion and kindness to other’s needs, frailties and differences .
Looking at the other point of view
Slowing down (cutting down on stressful commitments)
Daily meditation on compassion, mindfulness and insight
Add to this list by reflecting on what works for you. The majority of us express anger in words, and so we will concentrate on words that will heal and reduce conflict as opposed to words that will hurt and escalate conflict. The Buddha has advised us to speak words that instil confidence and cause happiness, hope and joy. If we are mindful of our precepts we can, over time, move towards refraining from words that hurt, cause disharmony and suffering. With effort we can move towards words that being hope, joy, peace and harmony.
Some words and action you should avoid using when you are angry are:
Words of accusation
Old history
Personal traits
Comparisons
Pointing fingers
Hurtful words such as:
You are stupid
You are dumb
You are selfish
You are vicious
You are cruel
and definitive words such as:
You always…
You never…
Instead, learn to express anger by sharing how you feel and how the other person’s actions or words affect you. The following expressions will help to defuse anger without escalating anger. “I feel (insert specific feeling) when you (insert specific act). Instead I would like/ prefer (inserts specific preference).”
For example, the statements: “I feel hurt when you accuse me of lying. I would prefer that you hear my side of the story before you pass judgement”, defuses anger. Compare this with “You always call me a liar. You never believe what I say. I might as well lie to you. What is the use of telling the truth when you will never believe me anyway?” The first approach defuses anger and helps the situation, whereas the second escalates anger.
Reflect on the advice the Buddha gave Visaka. The following reflection when meditating on loving kindness may also be helpful.
“May I develop the equanimity
to accept things I cannot change,
The courage to change things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.”
It is normal to feel annoyed when something unpleasant occurs. First, reflect on the issue and the magnitude of the action that has offended you. Is it really that important? If not, let it go. Do not let it escalate to anger, especially if the offender is a loved one. Instead, reflect on the positive things that the person has done for you. Also reflect as to whether this action is within your control. What is the use of getting angry and annoyed if you have lost your job and if there is nothing you can do to get your job back? Instead, spend your energy on changing or coping with the situation. Negotiate a severance package, ask for retraining, or look for other opportunities.
Remember that anger is your worst enemy. Anger harms you more than it does the person towards whom the anger is directed. The law of kamma operates despite the ignorance of man. Intentional actions by thought, word and deed will follow you and fruit at the opportune time. If you are a person who acts on anger through hitting and becoming abusive you need professional help. Spousal and child abuse is against the law. One must recognize that abuse can be both physical and through continuous harsh and threatening speech. Both leave scars. Often it is the mental scars that are harder to heal. They leave long-term emotional problems. Does your family love and respect you or are they afraid of you? One needs to earn love and respect. It cannot be got through fear. In fact, according to the Buddha’s teachings, continuous harsh words will result in aversion and ill-will in the mind of the recipient. Unchecked, aversion and ill-will in the mind of the recipient will lead to anger and hatred. And while you can change yourself and manage your own anger, you have no control over the minds of others:
The Buddha’s advice for anger management is boundless compassion and loving kindness through mental development. The Buddha said:
“Anger is never appeased by anger
Anger is appeased by loving kindness.
This is an eternal truth.”
Dhammapada 5
The Buddha encouraged others to destroy anger and hatred through loving kindness by describing the bliss of those who have conquered anger. He said:
“Truly we dwell in happiness,
as we do not hate, while others hate.
Amidst those who are filled with hatred
we live appeased,
free of hatred.”
Dhammapada 197
Statistics show that often persons are angry and abusive with their loved ones. The very same act performed by an acquaintance does not lead to anger. Most people with effort manage their anger in the workplace in order to appear professional, but vent at their loved ones. And yet it is those we love that we should treat with most tenderness. The damage done by anger cannot be measured. Reflecting on the following story may help to motivate anger management.
There was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, to hammer a nail in the back fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Then it gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to manage his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to manage his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same.”
When we say things in anger, we leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. In fact it can be worse, for mental abuse takes longer to heal. Family and friends are like very rare jewels. They make us smile and encourage us to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us to help us when we are hurt. Don’t scar your family and friends. Learn to manage your anger.